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Merciless Murders

The rainy season is in and with it, thousands of insects of all kind are coming out of the earth. Obviously rain water is not letting them stay in their cozy homes peacefully. How we people vacate our homes when there’s a flood or an earthquake- it’s the same with these insects. Life is very dear to one and all. Isn’t it? These insects come running out of their homes to save their lives least realising that they might  lose it in the bargain.

Just take the example of the tiny creatures ants.  After the winters they start coming out in hordes in search of things that could be transported home. Have you ever seen an ant sitting and eating whatever it gets? Never! We always see it carrying it to a certain destination- a crack in the wall or slit in the wooden window and after depositing the item carried we see it coming out of the hole hurriedly and going in search of another carry home item. In this journey from home to work and vice versa thousands of them get killed. Who likes ants tasting the food items even before it makes it to the stomach of people it’s meant to. It’s so difficult to remove  ants from the food stuff they have got into. So, as soon as we see ants roaming around on the kitchen counter or wherever they are not supposed to be seen, we just sweep them off from there or just pour water so that they run away. I know it’s cold blooded murder but then who wants ants in their food . Probably non vegetarians don’t mind but vegetarians do 🙂 🙂 The disciplined march of ants and the way a group of ants transport the bodies of dead insects bigger than themselves is commendable. They are smart enough to take part by part if it’s too big like a leg or some other part one by one and thus, the whole thing goes in without much difficulty.

All these insects keep coming in the way of humans knowing very well that they are not welcome in their world. Cockroaches think they are very smart and try to come out mostly in the night. The moment a cockroach is seen the first thought  that crosses anybody’s  mind is to hit it with a sandal or broom. Sorry to sound like Hitler but that’s what everybody does. Though accomplishing this is a little difficult because cockroaches just run so fast and hide in such corners that one is left gasping for breath after following it here and there. Same is with the crickets. Usually they are not seen but keep singing so loudly and frequently. Crickets are supposed to be the ‘star singers’ of the insect world 🙂 At first one wants to ignore it’s singing knowing well that they would be hiding in such a place where they can’t be reached. Though not in a mood to commit a murder one can’t help getting to the act because of the persistent screeching.  At that crucial time one single cricket would dare to come out of it’s hiding only to meet it’s end. Some crickets fight it out like valiant soldiers by jumping up again and again frantically. Sometimes while jumping they hit the face of the man ready to kill them or sit on his body which irritates him further. Spiders are the most dreaded among all these insects because their urine and poisonous saliva are believed to cause skin problems and infection. Though the experts are of the opinion that this is nothing but a myth and that no infection is caused by the spiders. Still the spiders are killed as soon as they are located mainly because the webs hanging in the house don’t give a good opinion about the people of the house.

The most stupid of all insects are the mosquitoes, flies and moths I think. Just observe a mosquito or a fly closely. It’ll come near you and you shoo it away and the dumb thing will come to you again. It does so repeatedly without taking the hint. So what’s wrong if one gets fed up and silences it? After all everyone’s scared of dengue, malaria and other diseases these dreaded insects gift us with. People who are trying to sleep in a mosquito infested room are heard clapping all night if they are not smart enough to use repellents to chase them away.  The new mosquito killing swatter/racket invented by the great Chinese is the ultimate. It kills them by subjecting them to electric shocks and one can hear the sound chut- chut- chut -chut at least seven to eight times before the poor thing breathes it’s last. When I first saw it at my friend Suma’s place, I felt awful seeing the mosquito die of electric shock and the sound added more to the drama.  Later, I bought one as there were too many mosquitoes owing to the greenery around.  I was hesitant to use it and let my husband do the dirty job. But then, human beings quickly get used to anything and everything in this world and now I handle the swatter better. I do cringe every time a mosquito gets trapped and the crackling sound starts.

A moth is known for its adamant nature of going near the fire in spite of the fact that that it’ll burn and die. There’s a beautiful Kishore Kumar song which talks about the shama aur parwana i.e. about the moth and the flame in the song pyaar diwana hota hai.

All these creatures meet their end because of their intervention in our lives but one does feel bad for them. Sometimes I end up saying sorry to the deceased insect, if I’ve killed it because I genuinely feel sorry. I think about their family members and their grief on discovering the dead body. But then, it’s also true that I cannot live with them. I’m happy that I’m not the only merciless murderer around and I’m better than those who kill rats and lizards without a batting an eyelid.  At the end of it I’ve to admit that all of us are murderers, some big time and some like us, but murderers after all!!

01 July 2014

Today’s newspaper, to my utter surprise said that a woman in the U S has been arrested for trying to kill a spider!!!
I got a little scared because here I was, writing about killing so many insects and there in the U S a woman is being punished for trying to kill a single spider?? Later, when I read the full article I heaved a sigh of relief. The woman was arrested because she tried to kill it with fire and the firefighters had to be called in to extinguish the blaze. She was arrested mainly because there were people living in the other half of the house who could have got hurt in the fire because of her stupidity and recklessness. She would be an actual merciless murderer if something unfortunate had happened!


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The Awkward Silence

Meeting people, talking to them, exchanging gossip about all possible things comes easily to most of us without trying hard. May be because it’s all routine where one doesn’t have to think too much before speaking. When a group of ladies meet they are mostly seen discussing their children, movies, TV serials, clothes and not to forget, recipes. Men are often seen talking about sports, politics and work related topics.. Women have a bad reputation of being very talkative but let me tell you that after sometime most women sit quietly waiting to get up and go home but the men don’t seem to stop talking. They talk tirelessly standing all the time. This is true about most fauji parties – ladies are sitting and officers are seen standing and talking. Even after 29 years of attending these parties regularly I fail to understand why they prefer standing throughout the party.

What I want to say is that when we don’t have to plan what to talk we can go on and on. But there are some occasions when even the most talkative people become tongue tied. At such times people are at a loss of words wondering what to say to the person in front. That moment, that silence is the most awkward for both the people.

When we hear that a friend or a known person has lost a dear one the first thought is to rush and meet the bereaved person to offer condolences.  But I’ve often heard people confessing that they don’t know what to say in such  situations. So, most people stand in silence watching the grief stricken person they’ve come to meet. I think people feel comfortable in giving a tight hug to the person which conveys everything better than words can. On a second thought I feel sometimes silence is better even if it is awkward because if there are people who don’t know what to say, there are also people who don’t stop once they open their mouth. I’ve seen some people talking so much about the dead person ( be it good things ) that it makes the person who is already grieving even more sad. No amount of good words or philosophy helps here.

Also, when somebody is in the hospital with some serious illness people come in large numbers to look them up. They come with good intention and definitely want to say a few encouraging words to keep the morale of the patient up. But sometimes on seeing the condition of the patient they get lost for words.  Some months back  my mother was in the hospital owing to a stroke who is recovering at home now. During that time I saw a number of people coming and just standing there, not knowing what to say. My mother would be looking at them but they would just stand awkwardly. Not able to bear the disgusting silence I used to start a conversation and  saw that it made them feel better. But some people who didn’t have any problem conversing would keep asking so many questions as to how did it happen and what is the doctor saying, all major and minor details right in front of the patient. Insensitive people!

Third most awkward silence occurs when one has to indulge in formal conversations. Spontaneous conversation is always enjoyable but formal ones are not. There are always lull periods in such conversations which become embarrassing. Such things usually happen when one is stuck with a senior person (not age wise but otherwise) one is not familiar with.

The silence between a husband and wife after a fight or a harsh argument is the worst. It may be short lived or a little long one but totally unbearable. It’s irritating and both the parties wait for the other to break the gruelling silence, not wanting to do it themselves. So, one wants to talk but doesn’t, owing to ego problem or ‘why should be the one doing it always’ syndrome. Living under the same roof and not talking to each other is really difficult and the most awful thing to endure.

The art of conversation and the art of saying the right things at right time is not everybody’s cup of tea. Some people are born with the gift of gab and some are not. Silence, sometimes is more welcome than words uttered without any sense. At such times awkward silence also becomes the most solicited one. Don’t we all at some point or the other say, “Oh, why doesn’t she just shut up?’ about somebody who’s going on and on? Unwanted blabbering is worse than awkward silence.


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